Gauging by the comments on my last post, my photo of the lady Redback spooked a few of you.
Believe it or not, spiders terrify me too, but when you fight the fear, and really stop to look at these little creatures, some of them are incredibly beautiful.
And realistically, it is not the spider you can see that is the one you have to worry about…
Growing up here in Australia, a redback spider was, and still is, part of summer life. We are lucky here in Adelaide to not have the nastier Sydney Funnel Web, but our colourful black and red arachnid will still give you a nasty bite if you are not careful.
That said, I have never been bitten and really don’t know anybody who has.
It is routine to check the outdoor table and chairs, before sitting, and also under the window ledges and rubbish bins, and it can be pretty obvious when a spider is in residence by the messy web they like to leave around.
And usually, all it takes to evict permanently is a shot of bug spray, a quick brush with the boom and you are ready to enjoy a comfy sit.
I wouldn’t call myself a thrill seeker, I despise rollercoasters and know I have a problem with heights.
I am not really sure I enjoy flying, and to be honest, I can be quite shy when meeting people.
But facing fear, any fear, will make you feel alive.
It pushes you to experience the world fully.
I am a little scared of coming to the USA. It is an awful long way and is going to be hugely expensive.
I can worry about the million things that might go wrong. I can worry about missed flights, plane crashes, random shootings, terrorist attacks, bears, mountain lions, skunks, cholesterol overload…. (feel free to dispute my stereotyping)
I know there will be a frisson of fear when I put myself in high places like the Grand Canyon or on a balcony of a skyscraper. There will be the fear of the crowds in New York, fear of getting lost or mugged or running out of spending money. (what if I can’t get a cheesy I heart NY t-shirt?)
And the fear that meeting my friends, despite all the planning, and hoping and counting down, could all go horribly wrong. (and I end up short a bodily organ or three)
But I am going to face these fears, and in doing that, I know I will experience such wonders, and beauty and fun that my life will be so much richer. This, I am confident.
We all have fears, some more rational than others. But we need to face them, even if we can’t overcome them.
(Big C driving still scares the crap out of me, but I am trying)
If you can, look again at that spider photo. Look how beautiful she is. How amazing her markings are. The colours, and shapes are natures way of telling us to be careful of her.
She was just sitting on a rubbish bin, outside, enjoying the morning sun. No bigger than a thumb nail.
Not hurting anyone.
And really, probably much more scared of me.
And if you just can’t face that again,
Here are some triple chocolate chip muffins. Fresh out of the oven.
Oh and did you watch the first Dazey Mahem video? It really is fucking funny. (That was before you got to the spider pic)